tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382300540439480296.post8645150531765393170..comments2024-03-09T04:43:51.982-08:00Comments on Faith, Hope, and Love...With Autism: Changing AttitudesPhilip Reyeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05409840177468847861noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382300540439480296.post-22932896528897860422013-09-24T16:14:07.056-07:002013-09-24T16:14:07.056-07:00Your reply gave me so much peace. Sanjay's wri...Your reply gave me so much peace. Sanjay's writing prompt for today<br />write about something you are proud of about yourself and state why.<br />His reply" The thing I am proud of is my leaving to living in California because change is not easy and I miss Rochester"<br />I miss Rochester and the comfort of familiarity. docpadmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04308630148239627582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382300540439480296.post-47054873103296369502013-09-24T06:41:29.646-07:002013-09-24T06:41:29.646-07:00Oh Padma, I will be thinking about your words toda...Oh Padma, I will be thinking about your words today and maybe add more to my reply. A big hug to you. We all need a good cry from time to time! I will even admit I am the biggest crybaby! We all get frustrated and make mistakes. Thank God for His mercy and grace. I have had to apologize to Philip too- a lot. It is good for us to do so. They can know we make mistakes and are humble enough to admit it. <br /><br />I understand the sadness you feel from our kids seemingly having to prove themselves to earn our respect. I think it is a hard lesson for us to learn how to love unconditionally. I think we always do, but it does not always come across as evident to our child. The true challenge is treating them in a way they feel our love and respect no matter what. Like your family, RPM's greatest gift to us is a change in attitude. I see it in Philip's brother and sisters too. There is a stronger bond and connection between them. It truly makes my heart swell with joy to see it! <br /><br />I can see a connection in your daughter's comment about God and the way we see our kids. A leap of faith is required to see God and to truly see our kids as who they are. There is work in getting to know each one. That only comes with focused time spent with them. In God's case, we are like the prodigal son. God never gives up on us even as we sin again and again and try to run from Him. Our kids can be like that with us. Believe me, I also spend many a day running after Philip when he'd much rather stim and play outside. But deep down, we both want to continue to be pursued by a God or a parent who knows what's best for us and brings us back into the fold. Maybe it's not respect our kids are needing to earn, but rather a more fulfilling relationship with us.Philip Reyeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409840177468847861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382300540439480296.post-5823872513187269182013-09-23T21:40:59.275-07:002013-09-23T21:40:59.275-07:00Hi Lisa,
I wanted to comment here. The biggest gi...Hi Lisa,<br /><br />I wanted to comment here. The biggest gift that RPM has given us as a family is the change of attitude. We still struggle with motivation of using the letter boards etc and Sanjay is constantly fighting me , he would rather run around and stim with his stuff and do nothing. And today was a particularly weepy day for me, where I decided that a good cry is good for me at this point. He started showing all wrong choices and his hand would not work well and I said super mean things such as he ought to be ashamed that he is not getting this even after 1. 5 years of RPM.... I apologized and cried but I am a sinner and I need grace and mercy. I hurt his little heart and his person. When we have such a relationship going, he goes in complete shut down mode.<br />Any way, what I was saying , is the RPM has given me respect for him and even his 9 year old sister, respects him because of the little person that we know is there.<br /><br />but it is also sad, that in order for us to respect him and acknowledge his brain/intellect/the him inside, we needed to see this ... you know what I mean?<br /><br />My daughter during a car ride casually asked me , what is the big deal about God? Why cant he be seen, everyone will like it and they will really believe in him.<br /><br />And I said, that you truly love god if you love him even if you have not gotten proof. it is not hard to love god , if you have seen him?<br /><br />docpadmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04308630148239627582noreply@blogger.com